MattyDale and the City

Morning Commute from Hell

2011-11-29T09:44:00.002-05:00

I detest driving in DC during rush hour. This morning was the epitome of stupid drivers and pedestrians... times 10!

I could hear the beeping several times from a driver who was urging drivers to pull out into intersections the exact moment the lights turned green. Before not too long, she was zipping around us, almost hitting us not once, not twice, but THREE times as she switched lanes like a meth head driving way too fast. On the final pass, after her last near miss of our car, I had to say something. As I passed, I yelled and asked if she always drove like a douche or if today was a special occasion? She squawked something back that I could not understand and don't really care to know.

As my heart rate came back to normal, and we were almost at our parking spot on the Hill, a pedestrian decided she was entitled to cross the street with a do not walk sign and the green light that I had, along with all the drivers behind me. She stepped almost right in front of us, and with some quick maneuvering, missed her. Heart rate back up even higher this time.

Finally we reached the spot for the car, and walked to Metro. Now we could sit an relax and allow another to do the driving... Unfortunately, Metro was single tracking on the Red line as the tracks were on fire at Medical Center station.

After well over an hour - what usually would constitute a 30 minute commute - I arrived at the office. Shaken, and stirred. I need a bloody Mary and I think it's gonna be a three martini lunch!

A Pleasant Ride

2011-07-13T11:46:00.003-05:00

Over vacation, I had the pleasure of driving our rental car... normally, I hate rental cars. They are beaten by renters, they are usually entry level vehicles and feel cheap. I was pleasantly surprised by our new Chevy Malibu LTZ...

I will be the first to admit, I am a car snob. I have had my share of American cars, and I have not been satisfied with the quality and driving experience of any of them. I've been a loyal Honda owner for quite some time now. When I picked up our new Malibu with only 170 miles on the odometer, I was excited to try a car that hadn't been abused by other renters, as well as this "new" generation of American automobile that has received positive press and praise.

First of all, the car us larger than I am accustomed to driving. It's a big car. There were times it did not feel large, and there were times it felt its size and then some (especially on twisty turns). It was completely comfortable with lots of features (nicely appointed leather interior, Bose speakers, nice wheels, V-6, 6 speed automatic gearbox with manual mode, and so on.

In terms of long term quality, I am still a little hesitant, but the car was solid and handled well - with the exception of some tight corners where it felt big and heavy. A nice pleasant ride!

Bobbit Part II

2011-07-13T09:23:00.000-05:00

It's going to be difficult to find this one. She threw it in the garbage disposal.

Quilt Panels

2011-06-28T12:47:00.002-05:00

Music is such an important, integral part of my life. It always has been, ever since I can remember.

One moment that I cherish in my musical experience was the performance of Quilt Panels, by Robert Maggio. The depth of the emotion, the absolute gut-wrenching and heart-felt music that we created was something I have not experienced since the performance. I hope to perform the piece again with an ensemble.

I have been thinking about the music a lot lately. I've had it stuck in my head. I've been thinking about the inspiration for the music. All good things, all good memories.

Pride Video

2011-06-28T09:57:00.005-05:00

My friend Rob is in the band, and we play trombone together. His partner William is an Emmy Award Winning videographer... REALLY!

William made this video of the band from the 2011 DC Pride Parade. It is incredible!

Malachite

2011-06-22T12:40:00.004-05:00

Malachite is believed to be a strong protector of children. It is said to protect the wearer from accidents and protects travelers. Malachite has been used to aid success in business and protect against undesirable business associations. It is a stone of balance in relationships.

Malachite is a stone that should not be used for physical healing. Malachite has been called the "mirror of the soul". It is variable in its condition. It reaches the inner feelings of the person and reflects what is there, negative or positive. It is so beautiful that one would like to wear it in jewelry, but caution must be used when wearing Malachite. It will always reflect how you feel, if you feel negative don't wear Malachite. It reminds us that we have a dual nature and it is up to each person to know and rule his own person. To help get rid of nightmares, keep a piece of Malachite in your bedroom.

2011-06-22T10:24:00.003-05:00

The weekend of sweet memories brought both new memories and paid tribute to old ones.

David and I drove to Rehoboth Friday afternoon. He picked me up at my office, and we retrieved Heidi and my luggage. We arrived at Chad and Matthew's home (they allowed us to stay there) in time to unpack, get a quick bite to eat, shower, change and head to Berlin, MD for the service.

The Shabbot - I think that's right - was wonderful. Most of it was in Hebrew, so I did not understand much, but the sentiment and the music were beautiful. The Rabbi at the temple is amazing. She is so warm and so kind. It's easy to see why her congregation adores her. Near the end of the service, a few of us were able to say a few words about Sharon. As we began to share our stories, I could hear thunder in the background. It made me feel - and several others who said the same thing - that is was not a mere coincidence...

After the service, David and I had a chance to talk with Veronica and Grayce, as well as other family and friends who attended the service. It was a fitting tribute, and it was wonderful to hear the fond memories that so many people have of Sharon. David and I returned to Rehoboth, both swearing we were going to change into casual clothes and go for drinks... we both crashed almost as soon as we returned to the house.

Saturday morning, we took our time getting ready to go out and enjoy the day. After lounging a bit, we made our way into downtown Rehoboth to check out the shops and possibly buys something nice. We did both, and had a nice lunch as well. AND, we got some sun. It was a lovely day. By evening, we dressed and made our way to Berlin again for another service - this time for friend Grayce's husband who had passed over the winter. We arrived much later than planned, and by the time we arrived, realized Terry would be in Rehoboth before long. We would only have a few minutes with friends, so decided it would be best to return and send our apologies to our friends. We made it back just in time to meet Terry, feed Heidi and give her insulin. We headed out for dinner and drinks. Terry had a bit too much to drink, so after a walk to the beach, our evening ended at the house around 11. We went to bed soon after, which was fine because we all were pretty tired.

Sunday morning, Terry and I headed off for breakfast, and David stayed in with the dogs. After breakfast, we took a walk to digest a bit. We returned to check in with David for a walk around town and lunch. David had done some exploring around town on his own at a couple of his favorite shops. Till we met up, we went for lunch, did some more walking and eventually headed to the house. We began cleaning up the house, packed up the car and said farewell to Rehoboth. We pulled out of town around 8, after dropping recyclables and grabbing some food for the car. By 10:20, we were home.

It was a terrific weekend for remembering our friend and making new memories. One that I will always cherish.

Off to the Races!

2011-06-17T08:47:00.002-05:00

I have a busy morning with a meeting and two conference calls. Then, I am out of the office at 1 when David is picking me up. We are headed to Ocean City, MD for the weekend.

Tonight, we are attending a memorial service for Sharon. Her friends and family will be together, and I know she will be all around us. That helps.

Tomorrow, we will tool around the beach, and tomorrow evening, we are attending a memorial service for our friend Grayce's husband. Afterward, we will have some much needed drinks in Rehoboth and we will meet Terry is traveling to meet David and me.

Sunday, the day is ours. I hope to get just a wee bit of beach time and some sun. We will head back sometime Sunday afternoon or early evening.

It's going to be a whirlwind weekend, it's going to be emotional and most certainly a time to celebrate the life of someone we miss very much.

Weekend Update

2011-06-14T10:49:00.002-05:00

This past weekend was full of experiences, and I feel like this will never capture the essence, but I want to get it down before I the moment slips too far away.

Friday night began with a bit of a whirlwind. Chad and I were off to see The Go Go's at Wolf Trap. We coordinated schedules to meet a little early after work and beat rush hour traffic, packed picnic food and wine, changed into concert attire and beat a path to Wolf Trap. We had a nice little picnic, some good wine and enjoyed a fun concert. The gals in the band sounded much the same as they did in the 80's. The movement of the balcony when the crowd danced for more popular songs was a little unnerving... other than that, it was fantastic, and we headed back to DC singing songs from the Glee soundtrack. I still haven't seen the show, but the music is popular and easily recognizable. Following a post-concert cocktail at Number 9, I was dropped off at home and in bed by 1am.

Saturday morning, I was up and at'em early to take care of the dogs, water plants and get to DCDD Marching band rehearsal for the 2011 DC Pride Parade. I am not playing in the band this summer, so I wanted to volunteer and help out any way possible. I was happy to be assigned the role of banner carrier along with another band spouse who is always very spirited and happy up front with the band. This was my first time hearing the marching band this summer. I was blown away by the sound and quality of the product they had prepared. Plus, the numbers of participating members is impressive - there are over 51 members, which is up from previous years. After receiving my uniform and instructions from "El Jefe", I made my way downtown on Metro to meet David.

David and I were off on an adventure of our own to David Yurman in Tyson's Corner. After a lovely brunch at Daily Grill, we walked around the Tyson's Gallery until we worked up the courage to enter the Yurman store. Note - this has become our routine, and I think it's a good one. At Yurman, we were greeted warmly by our new "friend" Jose who was happy to see us. We've visited numerous times, and this time, we were ready. We tried a few things, and after careful consideration and a few glasses of bubbly, we made our selections. The champagne certainly helped take the edge off. There was also plenty of good people watching, including a YOUNG lady who was there with her sugar daddy. Another customer came in to the delight of Jose and his fellow co-workers. He had quite a few pieces of Yurman, and he was looking for more. I feel like we became part of a distinguished club! After admiring a few more lovely items, including a Ferrari, a Maserati and a Lamborghini - all for sale inside the mall - we made our way back to DC.

The ride into town was fun, and we listed to a Judy Garland concert from the early 60's all the way to my house. The conversation was great and the music was incredible. At the house, I had to quickly prepare for the parade, and make my way to the parade route for line up. I did a quick wardrobe change, and I was out the door!

Beth and I met up near where we both parked, and in our tradition, we walked to meet the band for the parade. We arrived to meet the band, get our gear together and move to meet the NY Big Apple Corps where we had a group performance before the parade kicked off. It was fantastic to see and hear our groups performing together and having a great time!

Before we knew it, we were marching down 23rd and on P Street. The parade was off and running, and it was so much fun! The crowds felt smaller than last year, but they were just as enthusiastic and responsive to the band. They band sounded GREAT! A big, full sound filled the street, and the crowd loved it. As we wrapped up our performance, we made our way to Nellie's for drinks with our friends from the NY band. Terry and David joined me there, along with friends who are part of the Penn State LGBT Alumni Association. After drinks, we had a divine dinner at Bistro Cacao. Terry brought some lovely wine, and we enjoyed our meal immensely.

Sunday morning came quickly. After a long and eventful Saturday, we were up early again to join family and friends of our dear friend Sharon for the unveiling of her memorial plaque. We carried with us hydrangea and a red rose, as well as our love. I'd been trying to prepare for this emotionally for some time. No matter how much, I was not ready for the rush of emotions I felt when we pulled into the cemetery. I was overwhelmed, and it took all of my energy to stay together. Still tears were flowing freely, and I was suddenly taken back to the day - almost a year ago to the day - when we said our farewells to Sharon. The service was lovely. The Rabbi spoke so kindly of Sharon, her family, of David and her friends. I had a chance to read the letter I wrote to Sharon and posted here. It was very cathartic, emotional and heart-wrenching.

We had a nice lunch with all who came to the service and spent time catching up with each other, sharing memories and remembering the time we had with Sharon. Many of us hadn't seen each other since her memorial service a year ago, so it was nice to be together.

Terry and David and I made our way home via the Pentagon City Mall where we had an interesting encounter with David's sister - who he hadn't seen in probably 8 to 10 years. She's not exactly stable Mable, so let's just leave it at this... it wasn't one of those happy reunions they show on Oprah. We made it home and had a couple MUCH needed cocktails while looking at photo albums from Sharon for David. That was nice.

Sunday evening, we went to a BBQ at the home of friends Bill and David on the Hill. It was a great way to wrap up the evening - with friends and new friends - laughing, eating, drinking and enjoying each others' company.

The weekend flew by. It was fun, it was incredible, it was emotional, it was a celebration, it was a time for reflection.

Letter to a Friend

2011-06-10T09:46:00.003-05:00

It's been over a year since I last saw you and we spent time together. It was an amazing day, and you were gorgeous as ever. I will always remember that day. It's just the way I want to remember you... smiling, happy, full of life and spirit. As amazing inside as you are gorgeous on the outside.

I think of you everyday. You always bring a smile to my face, but I have to admit, I miss you as fiercely as you loved everyone around you. And lately, the memories of you are stronger and stronger. I feel your presence in my life in the things I say, the things I do, the way I treat people. I wonder if you ever knew how amazing you are? I wonder if you knew how much better you made our lives? You made a profound impact on my life, and we had such brief moments together. I can only imagine those closest to you, how they must feel, what they miss.

There's one in particular that stands out in my mind, and you know who I mean. He's very special, and I know he meant the world to you too. We've spent a lot of time together in the past year, and we celebrate you every time we are together. I made a promise to you, and I assure you, I do my best to live up to that promise everyday! I hope you know we are okay, but I hope you know we'd be better if you were here. I know that's selfish, but there are times I would do anything to have you with us, laughing, smiling and enjoying the moments with us. I know that's not possible, so I focus on the love you gave and the special moments we shared. Talking about you and telling stories about you... that keeps you alive in all of us who loved you.

This weekend, we will come together and honor you, remember you, celebrate you. I know it will be bitter sweet. But I know that we will be together and that helps.

Wherever you are... I love you. I miss you.

Bya,
Matt

Happy Birthday, Joan!

2011-05-23T10:27:00.002-05:00

Joan Collins is 78... and still a glamour puss!

I'd like some ham hocks please...

2011-05-23T10:23:00.001-05:00

Oh my dear god! WHAT THE HELL is this? From dlisted...The CAPTION THIS Contest WINNER For May 20th!

Solution to Swack on Metro

2011-05-18T09:42:00.003-05:00

Last summer was one of the hottest on record in DC. It was not a good time to be using public transportation if you were wearing a suit... which was me most days. Stepping on the crowded train after baking on the platform in the hot sun, the sweat was already pouring down my back... I HATE sweaty back... which I refer to as "swack." Each day, when I arrived at the office, my suit and shirt were practically destroyed from sweat, and I was completely drenched and beyond aggravated that I needed another shower before even arriving at the office.

This year, I decided to take a new approach. I have been leaving suits at the office and wearing gym clothes on Metro to the office. I arrive at work, change out of gym attire and into my suit. For one thing, I am sparing my clothes from looking like I strolled through a fountain. Second, I am much cooler and less revolting during my commute and when I arrive. And if I need to, it is much more convenient to use the shower and transition from gym clothes, rather than dealing with a sweat-soaked suit.

Another benefit to this new approach is that after work, I change back into gym clothes and either go right to the gym and home, OR on my off nights from the gym, directly home. It's great because either way, I don't have to dread the commute home, only to be sweaty and nasty in the suit on Metro. Cool comfort and less sweat are two things I enjoy. It's worth the extra time to get changed at the office each morning.

Down to OC and back again...

2011-05-18T08:52:00.005-05:00

Last Friday, David and I hit the road for OC - that's Ocean City, MD, not Orange County - to pick up the chandelier from our dear friend Sharon's house. The house has been sold, and her family has removed all the "stuff" from the house, except for the dining room chandelier that Terry and I purchased.

Our one-day adventure began with Terry dropping us off at the Zipcar I reserved for the day. We picked up our shiny, red Prius, and we were on our way. The drive was easy and went by quickly. It's amazing what good company and good music can do for a road trip. One rather surreal and unusual e that I should mention before I forget... as we pulled into the toll booth for the Bay Bridge, we noticed the vehicle in front of us... a silver Cadillac Sedan DeVille... just like Sharon used to drive. The trip was filled with reminders like this...

Before we knew it, we were in Ocean City on the Coastal Highway. I know David could make this trip blindfolded... he's made it so many times, and over the past few years, the frequency of those trips increased. There were points along the way we talked about trips the two of us had made together, trips David and Sharon had made and a a couple the three of us made together. When we reached points along the way, such as Easton, we'd talk about this being the point we would call Sharon and tell her to put on her face! The hardest part was when we turned onto the Coastal Highway. The two of us became very quiet. It was very reflective. We both knew the significance of this trip as well as the sentimental impact of the drive to the house.

We got into the house and unpacked the car - we came prepared with tools and step stools for taking out the chandelier and installing the previous one Sharon had replaced. Our wonderful friend Veronica arrived shortly after we did... thank goodness, because she was invaluable as the official screw driver holder... seriously! Without too much trouble, we took out the chandelier Terry and I had purchased from Sharon's estate, and we put back the old one. David had the worst job holding the old one up while I worked to install it.

We finished up our work, loaded the cars, cleaned up and made our way to Liquid Assets for lunch. It's one of our favorite places to dine in OC, and we have lots of great memories of times we spent there. This time was no exception. We shared memories and made some new ones.

Eventually, we had to begin our journey back home. We said our goodbyes (for now) until we see each other in a few weeks. David and I made a quick detour through Rehoboth to check out one of our favorite stores - Elegant Slumming. After examining their selection of men's jewelry, we made our way back to DC.

The trip home flew by. We had an easy drive through the country side. The Prius has done well, and we were home in plenty of time to get it back to the designated space.

We had initially planned to replace the existing chandelier with the new one on Friday when we got back to the house. We were exhausted, and by the time Terry got home to help, he was exhausted as well. We knew that was not an option. So, we woke up refreshed on Saturday morning. It looks absolutely incredible, and I love having such a huge presence of Sharon in our home.

If You Want Fresh-Squeezed OJ...

2011-05-11T07:50:00.002-05:00

This morning during my usual visit to Jonathan's Gourmet (across the street from my office), I waited in line with my scrambled eggs, oatmeal and fresh pineapple. As I queued with the others, I noticed a woman in her ill-fitting, hideous and mismatched outfit looking dismayed at her concentrated OJ she had just purchased. She had already purchased it, and was arguing with the cashier that the OJ wasn't fresh-squeezed... it was concentrated. She wanted to swap it out for Odwalla, and the cashier explained she can do that, but she'd have to pay the difference. The woman did not like that answer, so she walked away looking annoyed.

Now that she was supposedly done holding up the rest of in the queue, I thought we were done with her and her awful outfit that looked like she used to clean the floor. Not quite... she reappeared, this time with another product to swap for her concentrated OJ that she picked up and paid for in the first place. Not sure it was out of exasperation or if it was really okay, but the cashier agreed she could switch, and finally she was gone and the rest of us could make our purchases for things we actually wanted.

When I reached the cashier - one of the daughter's of the owners - she and I commiserated as we have gotten to know each other a little in the past 2 1/2 years I have been going there. She asked if I heard the woman's fit, and I said that the OJ was the least of her problems with her horrible attire. We shared a laugh, and went on with our mornings.

The moral of this story is, look in the mirror BEFORE you leave the house. And if you want fresh-squeezed OJ, make it yourself! OR, learn where you can go to get it (like right across the street at Au Bon Pain).

Those Wal-Mart Shoppers

2011-05-04T10:37:00.001-05:00

Seriously, why would ANYONE put this on their car?
Wanted

Time Moves On

2011-05-04T09:42:00.002-05:00

Tomorrow is one year since Terry and I were married. I am very happy to be celebrating our one year anniversary of marriage. The past year has been full and rich. We've had terrific moments with friends and family, and we've experienced loss of a friend and sadness. Through it all, we remain together and strong with open lines of communication and proper perspective.

Our anniversary is special for many reasons... of course because it the day we were married. It was a day when our family and very closest friends joined us to celebrate and share a special time together. The fact that we were able to be married legally in and of itself in DC is worthy of celebration. The most bitter sweet part of all is that our wedding day was the last day we spent with our wonderful friend Sharon.

When I say this, I don't want it to sound self-centered, but it felt as though she held on for that one last significant moment. I don't think I have ever seen a person save all she had and then give it all, for one moment. It was an honor and a privilege to have her with us that day. It was the greatest gift ever that I always will cherish.

On this eve of our first anniversary, I feel much happiness because we had a terrific day to celebrate our love, and we shared it with such special people. Yet, I am also heavy in my heart because I miss our dear friend.

This clip from "My Best Friend's Wedding" popped into my mind today... especially with regard to telling someone how you feel when you feel it... saying, "I love you," because if you don't the moment just passes you by.

Run, Forest, Run!

2011-04-27T08:51:00.002-05:00

Last evening after work, I met up with my friend Steve to go for a run. We've been talking out it for a while now. He has been running every day this week so far. So the inspiration struck me as well.

We began at his place on Capitol Hill, and we ran around the side of the Capitol and to the National Mall. We proceeded all the way down the Mall to 14th Street before we decided to turn around and run back. We made it all the way back to his place. We ran just under 4 miles. It felt good.

Heading down the mall, it was good to be out in the sun and around people who were running, playing soccer, involved with various sports leagues and just enjoying the evening. On my off nights from the gym, I would normally just go home and putz around the house doing laundry, cleaning here and there and that's about all. I was still able to do those things and get in a nice run on a lovely evening and take in the sights of the National Mall.

New and Better Experience

2011-04-25T12:47:00.002-05:00

I recently switched gyms for a couple reasons... for one, Bally Total Fitness at 21 and L in downtown DC has deteriorated rapidly over the past few years. It's dirty, it's falling apart, the clientele takes no pride in the gym and its equipment (leaving things all over the gym and anywhere but properly racked) and the staff (save for 2 I have noticed) really does not care at all about the condition of the facility or the experience it's members receive. Had I ever decided to work with a trainer, there was no way it would be at Bally's. Another key factor is the high number of seemingly crazy people who workout at Bally's downtown. The experience has been less than satisfying, and at times has been downright scary.

I did my homework and based on some simple criteria, I had narrowed my search to two gyms - Results and Gold's. As for requirements, the new gym had to be clean. It also had to be well-maintained, and if members don't pick up after themselves, the staff should be on it. Last, I was looking for friendly and engaged staff. I was more impressed by Gold's in all counts, and the bonus is that Gold's is more than $30 cheaper a month. Plus, it's a block from my office.

After being a member for almost a month, I am very happy with my experience at Gold's. All my primary reasons for choosing Gold's are still there and they are on top of it all. Plus, I decided to work with a trainer in order to get to the next level. I felt like I had plateaued, and I wasn't working hard enough.

My experience since I have begun with my trainer has been incredible. I have been working significantly harder and experiencing results already. While I made a great deal of progress since I started working harder last June, I have really upped my engagement with new routines and guidance from Reggie. Part of the work extends to outside the gym... really focusing on what I eat. I was doing a great job in most respects, but with his review of my diet, determined I wasn't getting enough good carbs. So I have added more of those, as well as a few more fruits and vegetables.

One thing I way also cut back on is booze... I rarely drink through the week anyway, but I have lost what little desire I may have had for a drink during the week. And on weekends, I limit to a glass or two of wine and that's all. Which is good, because if I drink "too much," I suddenly find more cardio in my routine so Reggie can make certain I am burning off the booze.

I can honestly say, I've never worked out this hard. I can honestly say, I have never felt better about how I look. My weight is up, I have added muscle and cut fat. I can see results, and I am looking forward to putting on a swim suit this summer.

Thank you, Thank you

2011-04-25T12:44:00.003-05:00

I have just a few weeks to get thank you cards in the mail from our wedding... I have been terrible about the whole process. To begin with, I was trying to avoid the whole gift registration. People pitched a fit, so I registered in a few places. Now, I am sitting on the thank you cards that I ordered. I have to get them out this week. Otherwise, Terry and I look like an ungrateful, rude jerks.

On the bright side, I have all the information I need to get the thank you cards out this week. I just need to force myself to sit down and get them done. Should really only take an hour or two. No more procrastination!

The Fall

2011-04-19T08:50:00.002-05:00

I've seen The Fall a number of times... but I have never made it all the way through to the end. I have a problem staying awake for movies.

Last night, I FINALLY made it the entire way through. It is a visually stunning movie with a fantastic story and amazing actors. The young lady who plays Alexandria is incredible. It's definitely a must see. As our friend Marie said last evening, "This should have won an Oscar for Art Direction! It is TIGHT!" And then there is the music... starting with the opening that features Beethoven's Symphony No. 7 in A Major. It fits beautifully with the movie, and variations on the theme are used throughout.

Seriously, if you haven't seen The Fall, add it to your queue or tell me when you will be over because I can watch it again and again.

In a Sentimental Mood

2011-04-19T08:39:00.002-05:00

I'm in a sentimental frame of mind today. I've been listening to slow and somewhat sappy songs. Not saying I am blue or anything. I am actually feeling quite good. But I'm feeling very in tune with my "softer" side.

I think it is coming from reflection on the status quo and things in general. All is well. Chugging along. Thinking about life and happy with my marriage, my home, my family and my friendships.

Of course, as I am looking at videos on Youtube, this one pops up as a featured item, just for me. So it was serendipitous. I had to post it...

Farewell and Happy Trails

2011-03-28T11:12:00.003-05:00

Friends Scott and Dave said good-bye this weekend to their beloved dog and friend, Buster. My memories of him exist largely around band activities... brass quintet rehearsals at Scott and Dave's house, when Buster would wander in and say hello. He was very sweet, and I know that the bond between them will live in their hearts forever.

Here is the tribute Scott made to Buster.

Sunday's Forecast

2011-03-25T11:13:00.001-05:00

A high of 34 degrees and a low of 28, with snow. WHAT? It's almost April. I don't WANT IT!

It's safe to say, I am ready to move to a tropical island.

My Liver Needs a Break

2011-03-21T13:49:00.002-05:00

This past weekend as a lot of fun, but my liver needs a break. I am going on the wagon. Between a friend's 50th birthday on Friday and spending Saturday with David, Ann, Ramses and his friend Bergie, let's just say I put my liver through it's paces. Surprisingly (and thankfully) enough, I did not have a hangover on Saturday OR Sunday. The only downside was a bit of sleep deprivation. By last evening, I was falling asleep on the couch at or before 9. It gets a little fuzzy after 8pm.

Spring!

2011-03-21T13:34:00.002-05:00

Spring is FINALLY here! I am so happy. Warmer weather, plants growing, trees budding... It's a great time.

It is nice to open up the house and blow out the stale air, do some spring cleaning and get back outside in the sun with fewer layers.

Longer daylight hours are nice too... nice to leave work when it is still light outside. Or even better, when I leave the gym after work, it's still light outside.

The winter was so cold for an extended time, so this year, we all needed spring to arrive more than usual. And now, it's time to enjoy!

Is anyone else tired of this winter?

2011-02-09T10:27:00.002-05:00

It's been bitter cold since late November. The wind cuts right through you like knife. It's been much more harsh than recent winters. And since I am complaining now, I am sure summer will cut spring short and we will have record highs. Seriously though, I just want to be on a warm beach by the ocean working on my tan. Is that so wrong?

Marrige for all in Maryland...

2011-02-09T10:25:00.003-05:00

This could be promising... and the wing nuts are promoting their same old, tired story. I am hopeful that we will prevail.

Viva Las Vegas

2011-01-13T11:59:00.002-05:00

Terry and I are heading to Vegas in the morning. The house/dog sitter is ready. We are ready.

Massages are booked for tomorrow afternoon at the Encore (staying at the Wynn), and we are going to see Ka tomorrow evening at the MGM Grand.

Another excursion I want to take while we are there is over to the Imperial Casino to check out the Auto Collection. All the cars are for sale. Many of them are historic automobiles. It's a fantastic chance to see some beautiful originals, as well as some restorations. I'm not a gambler, but when it comes to cars... I like them A LOT.

Back off!

2011-01-13T11:56:00.002-05:00

That's pretty much what my doctor told me today when I discussed with him some minor pain I am experiencing after my workouts. Luckily, the plan as he and I discussed is to back off on the weights and increase the number of repetitions. After working very hard to reach my goal weight, I want to stay up there and maintain and not lose muscle. If anything, I suppose this new regimen will help me get more definition.

Black Swan

2011-01-10T10:39:00.002-05:00

We saw Black Swan over the weekend. What an intense movie! SO visceral! Miss Portman has definitely earned herself an Oscar, in my humble opinion! Let's hope the Academy says the same thing!

From the Tree of Life

2011-01-07T12:07:00.002-05:00

Sharon's leaf of the tree of life. So special and so true...

Here is the tree...

Too Hot for Sesame Street

2011-01-04T09:49:00.003-05:00

Apparently, Katy Perry is too much for the children who watch Sesame Street. PUHLEASE. I see kids rocking out to Lady Gaga's Poker Face and Bad Romance and screaming the phrase, "I'm a freak bitch baby!" This cleaned up version of Hot and Cold is innocent. So her tops a little low-cut. I am sure this is nothing compared to what mom wears when she picks up little Johnny from school... tight Juicy Coulture velvet sweat suit with a sports bra underneath and her butt hanging out when she bends over.

Good bye 2010. Hello 2011

2011-01-03T11:04:00.003-05:00

To sum up 2010 in a word, I'd have to say bittersweet.

Terry and were married in May of 2010 - the DC council had approved gay marriage, and something that seemed like it would never happen in this lifetime, was finally available to us. We gathered our families and closest friends around for the day itself. What a terrific day it was. A friend of ours who is a judge performed the ceremony with members of our families and our dear friends there to witness the moment. I can't begin to describe how special it was.

It was only a few weeks later that we lost our amazing friend Sharon, who fought so hard for many years against leukemia. It still feels surreal. We still miss her terribly, and it's been almost 7 months now. I know that David's heart aches and it will take a long time... he did something that I can honestly say I'd do as well, but also was so wonderful and honorable... he took care of her for 5 years, until her last breath. We should all be so lucky to be surrounded by such love.

Just before Christmas, we learned that Terry's sister has cancer. Not exactly what she, or any of us were expecting. Her prognosis is good. Her spirits are not too bad. We look forward to seeing her very soon. Not soon enough.

The rest of the year just seems to fold in and around those three experiences. Standing the test of time with friends, watching out for each other and just being together has been a big part of the year. We needed that, and still do. The "short list" is awfully important.

Moving ahead - who knows what the year holds. Keeping my chin up and and my hopes high. Friends, we are in this together.

My Brother From Another Mother

2010-12-06T09:53:00.003-05:00

When I was just a boy, I wanted an older brother. My parents gave me one sibling... my sister Nicole. I was thrilled to have someone else to share time with, and I treated her as if she were my own. I put my wish for a brother away. When I was 28, I met the friend who would become the brother I always wanted.

As he would say, friend does not cover it. Our bond is much stronger than that. For the big moments and the small moments and those that change your life whether you are ready or not. For the moments when you can talk the others ears off and for those when you sit in silence while you listen to the other. For those moments you laugh until your stomach hurts and the the times you cry and just need big hug. We've shared them all and every where in between. We've evolved and grown. We both rely on each other equally, and in the same manner, support each other.

So as far as friends or even brothers are concerned, I'd say that our bond is much stronger than either is separately. It's more like the best combination of the two and then some, it's timeless and priceless.

Weekend at the Beach with David

2010-12-06T09:09:00.005-05:00

The weekend was good. That is an understatement. The weekend was amazing.

Friday night was very low key. Terry and I stayed in for a quiet night. We had dinner, watched a movie and went to bed early. It was a fantastic way to close up a fairly busy week and prepare for a weekend road trip.

Saturday, after a haircut and a good back and bicep workout, David picked me up and we were off to Rehoboth Beach.

The road trip was fun and fast. I was the official driver for the weekend. Of course I always enjoy driving a nice Bimmer! And I will never pass a Royal Farms again without smiling! Inside joke. We took the usual route to Rehoboth - which as a good chance of scenery for David. Anyway, before we knew it, we were in Rehoboth. We got situated at the house, did a little tax-free shopping and walked around downtown to ease into the slower pace of beach life. Even in the off-season, Rehoboth is very relaxing. It's a different way of life.

In the early evening, we returned to the house - Chad and Matthew were gracious enough to let us stay at their home in Rehoboth - for a glass or two of wine and to prepare for holiday party. Friends Veronica and Stan invited us to their home in Ocean City for their annual Hanukkah party. We arrived in Ocean City a little after 6:30... fashionably late for the party. We were greeted so warmly, and when Veronica say us both, it was a mitzvah! I have to admit, the attention was fun because her female friends were commenting while she greeted us, "I don't know who they are, but she sure loves them! I wonder if she's going to keep them all to herself?" We met the friends, and indeed, Veronica shared us with the other gals! The company was wonderful, the drinks were good (and strong) and the food was delicious. The almond cookies were so good, I still don't know why we did not fill up our pockets before we left. Alas, we did head out after a few hours and plenty of water so I was sober to drive.

The drive back to Rehoboth was just as fast and easy as the trip down to OC. We were back in no time, and decided we needed a night cap. We stopped at the Blue Moon for one. Not surprisingly, the Moon was packed. Luckily, we did find great parking right in front. Thank you, David, for the lucky horseshoe! It still works. After the Moon, we found a quick bite to eat before retiring for the night.

Sunday morning came too quickly. We watched the CBS Sunday Morning show, grabbed some breakfast and then returned to DC. Before we knew it, David was dropping me off and heading back to Frederick.

David and I have taken a lot of road trips over the years, but this is one that I will truly cherish. We talked a lot and reminisced, we laughed and cried a little too. The moments just passed by effortlessly, and it was a remarkable weekend.

Time

2010-11-15T10:38:00.002-05:00

Like the song says, it keeps slipping into the future. No matter how fast we want a moment to arrive, no matter how much we want the time to slow down so we can enjoy the moment a little longer, it remains constant.

In the blink of an eye, five months have gone by. It still feels surreal. I think of you and miss you every day.

David and I have been spending a lot of time together. And that is good for both of us. His memory is long, and that is good. He has a lifetime of memories and I love to hear them. His memories keep you alive in us.

A little drainage... a little sore...

2010-11-15T10:27:00.003-05:00

This morning, my sinuses are draining, and my lower abs sore. I am getting over a little bit of a cold that hasn't been too terrible. Terry had it much worse. And the legs... I did a long ab workout on Saturday, so my lower abs are sore.

Digging in for a busy day. A few calls and meetings. I have a box of tissues, and I plan to stay parked at my desk for the calls. I can get to my meetings in our conference room which is very close to my office.

Now if only I had a catheter so I didn't even have to leave for the bathroom.

Getting Ready for Sunday

2010-10-20T12:48:00.003-05:00

This Sunday, I am in a performance that is a fundraiser for DCDD. There is quite a bit that I need to accomplish before then. I am a bit frazzled to say the least. Last night was rehearsal for the group finale. Tonight, I am looking for my outfit at a few consignment shops. Thursday, I have to find another piece of attire... that is if you can call a wig attire. In between, more personal rehearsal time to make certain the double act I am involved with does not flop. Then another rehearsal Saturday morning for the finale. Sunday late afternoon, I have to report to the venue for the show. We are one of the last acts to go on before the finale. No pressure, right?

Come out to the event and see me do something that is going to be completely successful or completely humiliating! RSVP today!

Closet and Beer

2010-10-17T22:14:00.002-05:00

After I was able to get my headache under control this morning - not alcohol induced, but stiff neck again - I managed to clean out my closet and get all of my laundry washed and properly folded/put away. It's a regular routine of mine to clean out the closet and pull together clothes I haven't worn in a while for donations. Today, I pulled two shopping bags worth of clothes for donations.

After laundry and cleaning the closet, I focused on cleaning the rest of the bedroom... vacuuming, tidying and so on. I love when the bedroom is clean and organized.

In the meantime, Terry made German Potato Salad for a little Oktoberfest party we attended at Matthew and Chad's house. The German beer and food was delicious. The company was fun. We stayed for a couple of hours before heading home to take care of Heidi and Nick.

Today was just the right balance of work and fun. This whole weekend was pretty darn good. Thanks friends, for making it very special.

Weekend Warriors

2010-10-17T21:56:00.002-05:00

David and I had a great Saturday together. It was so good to spend the day together. We just did normal errands... I dropped my car of for service, and David was nice enough to follow me and pick me up at the dealership. Thank you! Such a mench!

We made our way from College Park to downtown DC to meet Cousin Alan for lunch. It's been a long time since David has seen Alan. Our lunch together was nice. We shared quite a few laughs, as well as some more sentimental moments.

After lunch, we headed to the mall. I needed some new fall and winter wardrobe pieces, and I had great plans to clean out my closet following the trip, depending on what I turned up. It was a successful trip. David provided great comic relief outside my dressing room, asking me if I needed a larger, roomier size. The staff got a kick out of him. I admire his sense of humor, and I must admit that I try to emulate it. ANYWAY, his advice on what to get and what NOT to get was quite valuable. It was my pleasure to get him a lovely gift in return. We both did well.

Next we headed back to the house. I have been having problems with a stiff neck for several days - still am today. It comes and goes, and it decided to come on Saturday afternoon. Several Tylenol helped, along with a nice rest. By the time I was feeling better, it was time to get the car.

All ended well. We had a nice day, catching up and enjoying each others' company. I've spent a lot of time worrying about him. I carry him in my heart wherever I go. I know the past several months, let alone the past several years have not been easy. I have many friends. I feel very lucky to have some wonderful friendships. I can't begin to explain how much I treasure the depth of trust, the mutual respect, the amazing heart of our friendship. When I say I would go to the ends of the earth for this person I am fortunate to call best friend, I mean it with every ounce of my being. I'd give him my kidney - not my liver... not sure it would work (just kidding). Time has brought us closer than I ever could have imagined. And this all makes me very happy.

Reminiscing and Making New Memories

2010-10-17T21:47:00.002-05:00

A classmate of mine from high school and I are spending more and more time catching up and growing back into each others' lives. It's been a lot of fun. She and I have seen each other a few times over the years... at school football games, at a restaurant where I looked. Then I moved away, and several years had passed. Thanks to Facebook, we reconnected.

Over the summer, we met for drinks. It was a good way to ease from Facebook - which is so passive - to a "real" friendship once again. Since then, we talk several times a week. Sometimes, Terry gives me some grief... he tells me I talk to her more than I talk to him. Not true. But she and I do talk a lot.

It's nice to talk with someone who shares a lot in common in terms of where we grew up. She also has had some very interesting and similar experiences in life, so there's more in common than just hailing from the same hometown. It goes beyond picking up where we left off. Our relationship is evolving in a way that makes me happy. I look forward to staying connected for a long time.

Reunion

2010-10-17T21:31:00.002-05:00

Last weekend, I traveled to PA for my 20th high school class reunion. It was an interesting experience. I have not been to one reunion since I graduated in 1990. I have not seen the vast majority of classmates since the graduation ceremony.

I want to preface this by saying, I was not out in high school. Not to myself, not to anyone else. BUT, I must also say, my classmates knew, and many did not seem to care. I must give props. Back in the day, many of my classmates were very good - supportive without being awkward. For the most part, I must say, we had a pretty good class. There were several ahead of us and behind us with some people who were brutal. I caught my fair share, but compared to some, I was not tortured, never beaten. The verbal assaults were bad enough, but as far as I am concerned, the treatment I received made my skin tougher. I knew that things had to get better when I left.

Fast-forward 20 years... I've caught up with a handful of classmates on Facebook. I've kept touch with a couple over the years. I just moved forward and lived my life. So, going back home to see the classmates I hadn't seen since we were 18, I was a little nervous, yet excited to know what they were doing, how they were leading their lives and how they looked after all these years.

I have to say, it was a lot of fun. My two classmates who took great care to organize the reunion did a marvelous job. Though, when I first arrived, it felt like I was stepping into a time warp. After a couple drinks, I relaxed and felt more at ease. I enjoyed the time to catch up with my classmates and talk about where life had taken them and to share a glimpse into my life. It was really good to see everyone and just spend time together in the moment.

Eventually, the official reunion ended, and we all decided to go to a local bar, not far from the high school. It was a great continuation of the night. I am happy to say that I went, I had a really good time and I can honestly say, I was nervous for nothing. I guess it's just like school... we all were kids who had some demon or another we had to deal with. We all had our awkward moments, our own private hell, thinking, "I must be the only one feeling this way." If only I knew then what I know know...

C'est la vie!

I Can't Believe I Am Saying This...

2010-08-29T08:31:00.003-05:00

But Sex and the City 2... not so fabulous. I finally saw it with friends last evening. It was annoying, and at parts, boring. This, coming from a very enthusiastic fan of the series and even the first movie. I routinely watch the series on DVD because I love it so much. I feel like movie number 2 was not necessary. The end of number 1 wrapped it up nicely for me. Just sayin...

Happy 12th Birthday, Heidi!

2010-08-29T08:25:00.006-05:00

Yesterday was Heidi's 12th birthday. It's hard to believe our girl is 12. She's doing well. She's still spunky and energetic. She has diabetes, she's blind and her eyes no longer produce tears on her own. She's complex, but she's wonderful. Here are a few moments from her birthday...

Birthday morning on the deck

Heidi with Uncle David

The morning after

Delores... I'm Wet!

2010-08-18T08:23:00.002-05:00

It was raining cats and dogs this morning! And our dogs did not want to go outside - neither did I! Heidi did go and take care of business. Nick required some blocking and pushing and shoving. He is so stubborn. Not that I can blame them. When we left for work, even with the umbrella, I was fairly wet by the time I got into the car.

Rachel Getting Married

2010-08-18T07:57:00.002-05:00

Terry and I watched Rachel Getting Married last night - with Anne Hathaway. Terrific movie. Very different from what I am used to seeing her in. It was not a girly, silly movie. Apparently, she received an Oscar nomination for her portrayal of Rachel's sister, Kim. It's impossible to look away as the train wreck unfolds while Kim returns home from her stint in rehab for Rachel's wedding.

Focus to Acheive the Dream

2010-08-17T08:48:00.002-05:00

Busy day today... meetings, gym, big sale at Banana Republic and section leader meeting. Yes, I can have it all... a career, a nice gym bod, a nice wardrobe and music. Nose to the grind stone...

Enjoying My Clean Surfaces

2010-08-16T09:50:00.002-05:00

Thanks to David's good eye and helpful handiwork, I am enjoying the nicely organized, clean surfaces in our dining room and kitchen. It's been over a week since we went through things in both the kitchen and dining room, in an effort to consolidate and better display all the glassware and other items.

This past weekend, Terry and I cleaned the house from top to bottom, which made it feel even better. There's not much better than a clean house. It's a good feeling. That and nice clean sheets!

Miss Ya

2010-08-16T08:27:00.002-05:00

It's been a little more than 2 months since you have been gone. Some days are fine, and others... something hits out of left field and throws me for a loop. Like today. Today, it was a song that reminded me of you. Joni Mitchell - and I know you liked it, which makes it even more bitter sweet.

I miss you. I miss your smile. I miss hearing you say, "Hya." I miss your laugh. I miss the banter between you and David. I miss the times we shared in the driving back and forth between OC and DC. When I miss you, I can find some comfort in a memory or the thought of a story that David has shared.

David and I have been spending a bit of time together. I guess you could say we are picking up where we left off. He's been so dedicated to you for a long time, and I know that's where you both needed to be. It's good to spend time with him again. I missed him a lot. He and I commiserate quite a bit. It's good to share our thoughts, our memories. They keep you alive. I don't know if it was fate or luck, but whatever it was, I know that the bond he and I share is unbreakable. It has always been tight, but you welded the bond between David and me. Thank you.

I heard something the other day that made me laugh, and I thought of you. The line was, "Time wounds all heals."

We're getting through, because that's what we need to do and that's what you would want. I know you would do the same. That, and share your love with others. When I miss you most, I try to remember to share a memory of you with a friend. To see a smile back at the memory reminds me of what I miss.

Ruling on Prop 8... Unconstitutional

2010-08-04T16:07:00.000-05:00

A victory... for now, I suppose. For our friends who did marry in CA, I am hoping this plays out for the best.

Cleaning and Purging

2010-08-04T08:29:00.002-05:00

Last evening when I arrived home, I had to take a step back and wrap my head around seeing a former friend who appeared to be either on the verge of homelessness or homeless. It was a sobering moment, and I actually remained sober all evening - no need to add to the dizzying affects of what I had witnessed.

When I calmed down emotionally, I could not sit still. I immersed myself in cleaning and purging of stuff. I started with trash and compost - taking it to the proper bins. Next, I dug into our bedroom... changed the sheets, organized my closet, threw things away... I eventually made my way to the den where I changed it from a guest room to a den following my parents' visit. Next, I worked on some laundry. After that, I moved on to the dining room. I prepared for some work that David and I will do this Saturday... moving glasses out of the curio cabinet to be cleaned, cleaning and moving my Wedgwood collection into the curio so it is not scattered and re-arranging some other collectibles in the dining room.

I finally was able to sit and relax around 12:30am. Shortly after, I went to bed and slept through the storms.

Disturbing Sight to See

2010-08-04T08:13:00.002-05:00

Last evening, I made my way home from work as usual. I went to the Hill via Metro to Union Station to meet Terry. As I came off the escalator at Union Station, I noticed someone I know, sitting with the other homeless people who wait there everyday for something or someone that will never come. The someone was a friend, who, about a year ago, I tried desperately to get into a rehab program. Seeing her there, glazed over and just looking lost made my worst fears for her much more real than I ever imagined.

The saddest part is that she did not listen to me, and eventually, I had to cut the ties. A former friendship had declined to a relationship that she took advantage of in order to keep her addiction going. She was not willing to face her demons, and there was nothing I could do to help anymore. It was the most difficult thing I had ever done.

Seeing her yesterday was disturbing. It shook me to my core to see someone who used to be a very important part of my life, sitting there wasting away.

I turned and walked away. As harsh as that sounds, it's what I had to do.

Weekend with the Parental Units

2010-08-02T10:01:00.003-05:00

My parents came for a visit this weekend. Since Terry worked late on Saturday and had inventory on Sunday morning, it was a nice time for my parents and I to spend time together and catch up - just the 3 of us. It's been a long time since we did that.

They arrived Saturday afternoon, and we settled in. We talked a bit. They are in the process of the beginning stages of home renovations. They are very excited. I am happy for them. This is a long time coming, and I think they are making the right decisions.

We eventually decided to make our way out for early dinner. Mom loves the Cheesecake Factory. We headed over to Clarendon, VA. It was early enough that we did not have to wait for a table. The meal was delicious, if not huge. The portions are way too large, but at least you know you get value for your money. And Terry had my left overs for dinner. We save a little room to enjoy one slice of Red Velvet Cheesecake between the three of us. It was divine! Layers of Red Velvet cake with layers of cheesecake... MMM MMM GOOD!

After dinner, we made our way home, talked a bit more about family and friends and life in general. We retrieved Terry from work, and settled in for the night.

Sunday, David joined us at the house. He welcomed us with a large bag of the most delicious bagels from a bakery in Frederick. By the time we were done eating, drinking mimosas and showered, Terry was home from inventory. We decided to drive to Tysons to walk around in the Tysons Gallery. Terry almost had to drag me out of David Yurman. There is a Malachite dog tag that I want so badly. After checking out a few other things and grabbing a light lunch, we headed back to DC. We returned to the house and enjoyed a few Cosmopolitan martinis.

Mom and Dad hit the road, and Terry and David and I had breakfast for dinner... French Toast, chicken sausage and hash browns. YUM.

All in all, a nice weekend.

It's WAY to Hot This Summer...

2010-08-02T09:59:00.001-05:00

How hot is it?

Working on the Chassis

2010-07-30T08:42:00.002-05:00

I have been working hard at the gym with 40 knocking on my door and an impending 20th class reunion. Staying fit has certainly become a priority as I approach a milestone age. As someone who does have a bit of a streak of vanity, I want to make certain I am doing what I can to slow the clock.

The results are coming faster than I expected, which is good. I tend to be impatient, so when I see changes from the hard work, they are nice rewards. Adding definition, toning and putting on some weight from muscle are my goals, and so far, I have been able to achieve all three. I am enjoying my work outs, I feel better when I do go to the gym and I am liking the results.

The Rantings of a Lunatic

2010-07-30T08:39:00.002-05:00

This morning, a crazy person as walking down the street as I was making my way to work. He was LOUD and insane. He was yelling about "GODDAMN GAYS" and something about the Reagan years... I kept walking. As I made my way out of the Jonathan's Gourmet across the street from my building with my oatmeal in hand, the crazy man surprised me when he appeared from behind one of the planters. He yelled, "HEY BOY!", and his ranting began again. I headed into my building, and I could still hear him out on the street as my elevator doors closed.

How can you mend a broken heart?

2010-07-19T09:14:00.001-05:00

I wish I had the answer to that question. I wish I had a potion, or I wish there was something I could say to make it all better.

Catching up

2010-07-15T00:47:00.002-05:00

It's been 20 years since high school. Life has changed significantly since then. I am a different person. All that time makes you grow up and evolve... well, most people.

I've recently reconnected with two classmates that I have not spoken with in years. One... over 13. The other, not since graduation.

I must say, it's been great, and I am really happy that the three of us have reconnected. I am certain that we will continue to stay in touch. Only time will tell. But so far, the experience of catching up has been terrific. I look forward to the next step. I see our own reunion happening before our class has it's official 20th reunion.

Bad Gym Hair

2010-07-14T10:33:00.002-05:00

I witnessed a woman the gym yesterday, with a tacky infusion of hair on her head, pulled back into a gigantic pony tail. Her extensions were blatantly obvious and terribly tacky. And while she strutted around the gym, her enormous fake pony tail bounced around like a mop head. It was like a bad interpretation of Madonna during the Blond Ambition years.

Let It Rain

2010-07-14T10:16:00.002-05:00

The recent storms have brought much needed rain. My garden is happy, and so are all the plants on my deck. I have also enjoyed the break from daily watering of potted plants and the watering of the garden.

Along that subject, the storms last night were pretty spectacular. The light show was amazing, and the sound of the rain was quite relaxing. There were a few points when the lighting was striking very close by, and the thunder was so loud that I felt the house shaking a little. The dogs were nervous... ears down and hovering nearby.

When things settled down and we were left with just the rain, as the storms moved off in the distance, the light show continued. Though it was certainly less visceral at that point.

This morning, everything in the garden looked so fresh and green. I love the results of a summer rain.

Where did the time go?

2010-07-12T11:22:00.003-05:00

This past weekend was terrific, and it few by so quickly.

Friday night, Terry and I relaxed at home. It was a nice, quiet and restful evening.

Saturday, I was up early for the gym and errands. Terry went to work early since we had a wedding reception that evening. Friends Terry and Nathan were married in April, and we attended their reception at the Palomar in Roslyn, VA. It was a lovely evening. Those boys sure know how to through a party!

Sunday, Terry and I were off in separate directions as he drove me to pick up my Zipcar for the afternoon. I reserved a Mini Cooper Convertible, and I drove to Frederick where David and I had a great time driving around, having lunch and enjoying the sights of downtown Frederick. It was something new and exciting, and the change of pace was good for both of us.

Terry was off for VA, where he met up with his best friend from high school. They hadn't seen each other for 20 years. I am glad they got together - they had a great time catching up, and Terry could not stop talking about it. When we both arrived home, we did a quick wardrobe change, and we were off to dinner with friends who live on Capitol Hill. They are customers of Terry, and they have become friends over the years. We had a delicious meal that they prepared, and Terry brought some beautiful wine that went perfectly with the meal.

This morning came way too quickly. We fit a lot into the weekend. Now time to get back to the grind!

Good Weekend

2010-07-06T08:27:00.002-05:00

This past weekend was a nice break, and offered time to catch up, reflect and relax.

Friday night, Terry and I were able to get out... just the two of us. We had a drink, took care of the dogs and had a nice dinner. The weather was lovely, and it was nice to sit outside for dinner and relax. It was a fitting start to a weekend that promised to be fairly busy. After dinner, we retired for the evening. We both were pretty tired from the week.

Saturday, following much needed haircuts, we both went to the gym. Terry went to work after his workout, and I met David for some terrific quality time.

It's been a while since we've spent a Saturday together, and it was really nice to pick up on a tradition that we both have enjoyed. We walked around Georgetown and took in the sights, had a few cocktails and talked a lot. Topics ranged from collagen injected lips to the meaning of life. David also welcomed me to the tribe, which is an honor. He and I shared a lot of laughs and a few tears as well. We reminisced and payed proper tribute to Sharon. We eventually made our way to Logan area where we had a couple more cocktails and some food, picked up groceries for dinner at Whole Foods and stopped my Matthew and Chad's to water their garden. We made our way back to the house, where I mixed up some lemon drop martini's and I played Suzie homemaker, marinating the sirloin for dinner before Terry arrived home. We had a terrific dinner and a lovely Pinot Noir that Terry brought home.

Sunday came rather quickly. Luckily, no hangover... because I had to march in the Palisades July 4th parade with DCDD. The weather was quite warm. Okay, it was bloody hot! And with the delayed start to the parade (our chase car had been buried toward the back of the lineup, and could not make it's way to us), we were over an hour behind. After the parade, Beth and Laura and I had a quick lunch at Nellie's. Beth was kind enough to drop me off at home.

That evening, Terry and friend Rodrigo and I watched fireworks from Marie's roof top. As always, the show was great. Her neighborhood was certainly more "alive" this year than in years past. Fireworks were coming up all around us from the neighborhood, and the display that we could see on the National Mall was terrific. We hit the wall around 10, and had to go home.

Monday, Terry and I were able to catch up on chores in the lawn and bath both the dogs. We also got to the gym, and afterward, we indulged in the pool at a friend's condo. It was refreshing. In the evening, we relaxed at home with Marie. Neighbors Karen and Joe joined us for some wine. We crashed early last night. I think Terry was in bed by 10. I followed about 45 minutes later. Just the right amount of activity and rest for a great 4th of July weekend.

Dickson Wine Bar

2010-06-22T11:40:00.000-05:00

Tried a new wine bar last night on U Street - Dickson Wine Bar. Really enjoyed the atmosphere, wine and food. It's very sleek and minimal. Service is good. It's a keeper.

Keep moving forward

2010-06-22T11:29:00.000-05:00

The weekend was rough. I wanted to be alone. I wanted to stay in bed and just sleep.

I forced myself to participate with the marching band at the Baltimore Pride Parade. Along the way, I had lunch with Christie and Tina - they were on their way to a 1980's Hair Band concert that lasted most of the day Saturday. We met in Columbia after Christie picked Tina up from BWI.

After lunch, they went to the Post Pavilion, and I made my way from Columbia to Baltimore. The parade was brief - 8 blocks. I stuck around after for a bit to talk with a few friends. I got out of there because it was too crowded, and I was not in that frame of mind. I don't know how I made it home. I felt so tapped out.

Sunday, I was in slow gear. No motivation. No amount of coffee helped. Again, forced myself to get in the car and go to PA for Father's Day with my family. It was good to see my family, especially my nieces. It's hard to hide when a 2 year old and a 4 year old want to hug you and spend the day with you. Terry and I put together dad's new porch glider, and we had a nice lunch. The girls played on their new Slip-n-Slide. It was fun just to watch them.

The drive home was a little better than the ride up. When we arrived home, I found some therapy in the garden... watering the garden and observing birds flitting around, butterflies and a dragon fly moving from flower to flower.

Upgrades

2010-06-22T08:52:00.003-05:00

Since I don't want to spend $500 on the new iPhone (I only purchased mine in December, so no discounted upgrade for a year and a half), I took the free software upgrade last night. Well worth it! Better organization for apps, ability to set background image, better mail management, zoom on my camera and a host of other cool new features that will be part of the new iPhone 4.

Get Happy

2010-06-18T16:04:00.001-05:00

It's Friday! Let's get HAPPY!

When I Die - by Merrit Malloy

2010-06-18T14:09:00.004-05:00

At the end of Sharon's memorial, the Rabbi recited this beautiful poem. It has helped significantly.

When I Die

When I die give what’s left of me away
to children and old men that wait to die.
And if you need to cry,
cry for your brother walking the street beside you.
And when you need me, put your arms around anyone
and give them what you need to give me.

I want to leave you something,
something better than words or sounds.
Look for me in the people I’ve known or loved,
and if you cannot give me away,
at least let me live in your eyes and not in your mind.

You can love me best by letting hands touch hands,
and by letting go of children that need to be free.
Love doesn’t die, people do.
So, when all that’s left of me is love,
give me away.

- Merrit Malloy

A story from my brother-in-law

2010-06-17T09:02:00.003-05:00

My brother-in-law, Scott, sent this to me. His timing is perfect. I had to share.

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4am and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 &70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love... I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But then again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it).

MAY OUR FRIENDSHIP NEVER COME APART, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART!

An Evening In The Garden with Rose of Sharon

2010-06-16T19:02:00.003-05:00

Terry and I have been spending a lot of time in our back yard the past three years in order to transform it to our own little oasis in the city. We built our deck about 3 summers ago. Since then, we've been cultivating the soil so it will be better for the types of plants and trees we'd like to grow. This is the second summer we have been planting, and things are looking great.

This evening, when we arrived home, we decided to move a tree that Terry noticed growing near our compost bin in the last couple of weeks. We relocated it not too far from where it began growing by chance... not sure how it cam to grow there, but it did, and it's doing just great. At any rate, it has a new home, a few feet away.

Terry did a little research, and found the name if the tree is Rose of Sharon. Even more interesting, especially since we've been talking about planting a tree for Sharon, are the origins of the Rose of Sharon tree. There are biblical origins, and in Hebrew (Chavatzelet HaSharon) the name of the tree means "splendid." Indeed. How appropriate.

Sitting Shiva

2010-06-16T09:05:00.003-05:00

Last evening, after a perfect celebration of Sharon's life, David and I had a nice evening together. While the family did not officially sit shiva, David and I had our own. It's been a long time since David and I have been able to get together and let our hair down as friends. We had a few drinks, made a toast to Sharon. We talked, we laughed, we cried. We shared stories and enjoyed the moment. We reminisced. We consoled each other.

There are people who come into our lives, and it's impossible to see or know their purpose until the moment hits you. What you do with that moment is significant of who you are... do you embrace it, or do you turn your back on it? I can't imagine my life without David. As Bette says, "You've got to give a little... take a little... and let your poor heart break a little... that's the story of, that's the glory of love."

I know I have shared this before, but at this moment, the words of the song For Good (from the show Wicked) seem most appropriate.

I've heard it said
That people come into our lives for a reason Bringing something we must learn and we are led to those
Who help us most to grow if we let them
And we help them in return
Now I don't know if I believe that's true
But I know I'm who I am today because I knew
you...

Like a comet pulled from orbit as it passes the sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder halfway through the wood
Who can say if I've been changed for the better
But because I knew you, I have been changed for good

It well may be that we will never meet again in this lifetime
So let me say before we part
So much of me is what I have learned from you
You'll be with me, like a handprint on my heart
Now whatever way our stories may end
I know you have rewritten mine by being my friend...

Like a ship blown from its mooring by a wind off the sea
Like a seed dropped by a skybird in a distant wood
Who can say if I've been changed for the better
But because I knew you, I have been changed for
good

Because I knew you...

I have been changed for good

And just to clear the air I ask forgiveness for what you blame me for...

Well I guess there is blame to share...

And none of it seems to matter anymore

Like a comet pulled from orbit as it passes the sun
Like a stream that meets a boulder halfway through the wood

Like a ship blown off its mooring by a wind off the sea
like a seed dropped by a skybird in the wood

Who's to say if I've been changed for the better?

Because I knew you

Because I knew you

I have been changed for good

Bya

2010-06-16T08:32:00.004-05:00

Our dear friend Sharon passed peacefully on the evening of Sunday, June 13th. She will remain in our hearts as an example of how to live every single moment to the fullest.

We attended her memorial service and funeral yesterday. Both were loving and perfect tributes that celebrated her life.

David said that Sharon enjoyed the song, Both Sides Now, and I wanted to share this as my tribute to her.

Bows and flows of angel hair and ice cream castles in the air
And feather canyons everywhere, i've looked at cloud that way.
But now they only block the sun, they rain and snow on everyone.
So many things i would have done but clouds got in my way.

I've looked at clouds from both sides now,
From up and down, and still somehow
It's cloud illusions i recall.
I really don't know clouds at all.

Moons and junes and ferris wheels, the dizzy dancing way you feel
As every fairy tale comes real; i've looked at love that way.
But now it's just another show. you leave 'em laughing when you go
And if you care, don't let them know, don't give yourself away.

I've looked at love from both sides now,
From give and take, and still somehow
It's love's illusions i recall.
I really don't know love at all.

Tears and fears and feeling proud to say "i love you" right out loud,
Dreams and schemes and circus crowds, i've looked at life that way.
But now old friends are acting strange, they shake their heads, they say
I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day.

I've looked at life from both sides now,
From win and lose, and still somehow
It's life's illusions i recall.
I really don't know life at all.

More Carol with Maggie and Vicky and Harvey

2010-06-10T09:50:00.001-05:00

Carol, I need a good laugh

2010-06-10T09:40:00.000-05:00

Insomnia

2010-05-19T09:38:00.001-05:00

I couldn't sleep last night. I stayed up watching St. Elmo's fire, and I eventually feel asleep on the couch before making my way to bed around 2:30 this morning. Was this movie really this cheesy?

How will YOU say it?

2010-05-18T14:48:00.001-05:00

Shake, Shake, Shake!

2010-05-18T10:05:00.001-05:00

The marching band is playing Jump In the Line for events this summer. I cannot get this song out of my head!

Productive Weekend

2010-05-17T14:52:00.003-05:00

This past weekend when by so quickly. We got a lot of work accomplished in the garden and in general.

Saturday, I ran some errands to get a few things for the house - some candle holders to hang from inside our umbrella over our table on the deck, a few more picture frames and some wine glasses for parties. I also took the car in for an oil change and tire rotation. All set for another 5,000 miles.

Saturday night, some friends surprised us with a night out. We had a fun evening at L2 Lounge and Zeigfields/Secrets and Annie's.

Sunday, we spent most of the day gardening - we bought 35 bags of mulch and some new plants. I mowed the lawn, spread the mulch on the beds and planted new flowers and shrubs. Terry did more tilling, planting and work on our path. By 7, we had finished. We were exhausted. I made a nice dinner - rotisserie chicken - on the grill. About 5 minutes after we finished dinner, I was asleep.

BOO YA!

2010-05-17T14:51:00.000-05:00

My wish for Sharon

2010-05-10T14:36:00.008-05:00

It is very seldom I find myself at a loss for how to handle a situation. I can usually come to grips and move forward with a plan - if not the best, close to it. Today, I can't wrap my head around something, and I know I don't have a choice.

I have made many posts for our friend Sharon in the past several years. She's been fighting for her life for while now... more valiantly than I think I could. Today, some bad news came, and it's incredibly difficult to face, but as I said, I don't have a choice. None of us do.

At this point, I hope that she is comfortable and I hope that she knows how much she is loved. I hope that she feels the love that she has given to everyone else without a single thought. I hope that her family and friends come together to give her and each other strength to make it through each day.

This past weekend, I traveled to Sharon's house with David to help him pack some things for her. While we were there, I couldn't help looking at all the photos of Sharon with her family and friends over the years. They span from childhood to more recent times. I said to David, "She still looks the same... the same eyes, the same smile." And there is more. In every photo, you can see the joy and love for life in her eyes. Every moment, you can just see her bright smile that just warms you.

Last week, Terry and I had the ultimate pleasure of Sharon and David not only attending our wedding, but they made the day even more special by being our drivers and companions for the day. They took great care to add special touches that made the day even more memorable. The simple act of being there was the best. Everyone who was there adored Sharon, and I can't possibly convey how much it meant that she and David were there. If there is nothing else I can say or do right now, I have to say that with everything they've had to deal with, they both put it all aside and were there for that important moment in our lives. There are very few people I know who could give so unselfishly of themselves.

I wish her a restful day. I hope to see her in the next few days. Until then, she is in my heart.

What a week!

2010-05-10T10:54:00.002-05:00

Last week was absolutely incredible.

So to start, Terry and I got married last week! His sister and her husband arrived on Monday and helped get some things ready around the house. On Wednesday, we had a very small wedding with family. A friend who is a judge performed the actual ceremony.

On Saturday, David and I went to Ocean City to pack some more things up in Sharon's house. He picked me up at 8am, and we were off to OC. We made great progress, and were back to DC by 6pm. It was a whirlwind trip, and we got a lot done. It was good to spend some more time with David.

Saturday night, I picked up Terry from work, and we headed to visit friends who recently moved to Capitol Hill. We stayed for Saturday Night Live, which was a lot of fun with Betty White hosting. And it was good to catch up with the guys - they recently were married as well.

Sunday morning, I was up early and out the door to make a surprise visit to Mom for Mother's Day. She was definitely surprised, and we had a great visit.

I headed back from PA in the middle of the afternoon to meet Terry, Chad and Matthew for dinner at Volt. Along the way, I had a brief visit with David to drop off some goodies for him.

We had a wonderful dinner at Volt. It was a 21 course tasting in the kitchen at Volt. To say it was the best meal I ever had is an understatement. I have had the pleasure of enjoying many fine meals... yes, I have been very fortunate. This was nothing short of amazing.

This morning, I woke surprisingly before the alarm sounded. After such a busy weekend, I feel remarkably refreshed.

I am concerned about Sharon - waiting for more updates on her situation. I hope the follow-up from her team is good.

I have a busy day today with meetings and rehearsal after a late meeting. I should be home around 10 tonight. What a day! Next weekend, I am staying in, and I am not leaving my house!

Snap Out of It!

2010-04-26T19:55:00.002-05:00

This is the advice I am trying to take. I am in a funk, and I need to snap out of it. There's plenty to be happy about, but the things weighing on my mind are heavier now than the wonderful things. I am deeply depressed about our friend who's health is fading. She's remained tremendously positive throughout this entire experience. I can't say the same. So for now, I will just take my dear friend's advice, and try to make each day the best day ever!

Need to Relax

2010-04-16T22:11:00.002-05:00

Too much is on my mind tonight. It's been an evening will unnecessary stress. With this weekend's performance, I find my head filled with things that are distracting to focus on music an a solid show. Need to relax. It will all work out.

Weekend update

2010-04-12T08:00:00.002-05:00

We had a decent weekend. It was a good combination of productive with fun and quality time.

Friday night we crashed at the house. It was a good night to stay in and relax. Especially in prep for Heidi's big day...

On Saturday, we switched Heidi from Vetsulin to Humulin N insulin. The former is dwindling in production, and the switch was inevitable. Better now when it's on our terms. So far, she is doing well. I spent the day with her on Saturday, testing blood glucose e dry 2 hours. On Saturday, it appeared that we had easily made the switch. Her numbers were looking good. By Sunday, she was running high... Not dangerous, but higher than is needed. She will likely get a slight boost in her dose.

David stopped by in the afternoon for a very welcome and needed visit. It is rare these days he and I have time together, just the 2 of us, to catch up on life. It was a great visit. That is an understatement. We shared some much needed time together, and talked about some tough subjects. And of course we had a few drinks and a few laughs as well.

Saturday evening, Terry and I had a nice, quiet dinner at our new favorite restaurant... Toscana Cafe, which is at the corner 2nd and F Streets NE. The food is marvelous, and the prices are incredibly reasonable! Plus, I'd you take your wine from Schneider's, the retaurant waives the already low corkage fee.

Sunday, we continued testing Heidi every 2 hours while we worked around the house... Mostly on the deck and in the lawn. David stopped by on his way back through town, so Terry got to spend time with him as well. Another great visit, with a few things fro Sharon as well. We made our way to Behnke after David hit the road. We found a few lovely items for the deck and some wysteria for the latice along the side if the deck. The plan is to grow it up and into the arbor over the deck.

Last night was a nice quiet night. I made us some fresh beets, along with a nice rack of lamb that we grilled outside. Heidi got her weekly bath. All in all, a pretty decent weekend.

Cheers! Let's make this week a great one!

Sometimes a Steel Magnolia feels like a Shrinking Violet

2010-04-04T14:26:00.001-05:00

A friend once told me that he thinks I am a steel magnolia. I take things in stride and remain strong.

Two people in particular make this so called steel magnolia feel like a shrinking violet. IN the past year, two friendships have evolved to the point where one is relatively cordial (as of recent events) and one is a mere memory. It all makes me very sad, and the very act of writing about it makes me more melancholy than I'd care to admit.

I wish things hadn't changed the way they did. I miss them both, more than they could ever imagine. But for now, at least, things are the way they need to be.

"I really don't know life at all" best sums up how I am feeling at this moment.

Shades of Blue - Save the Date!

2010-03-22T15:23:00.002-05:00

Please save the date for April 17th (Saturday at 8pm) and April 18th (Sunday at 3pm) for DC's Different Drummers concert, Shades of Blue. This will be a fabulous concert. I know it will be our best yet, including Gershwin's Rhapsody in Blue with a featured piano soloist!

For information about the performances and to purchase tickets, visit the DCDD website.

Trying to catch up

2010-03-22T15:19:00.002-05:00

Things have been hectic lately, but I am still here. I am not giving up on my renewed efforts to maintain the blog!

Between work, efforts to stick with the gym 4 days a week, band rehearsals for our upcoming concert and other assorted events, things have been very busy. But all is well.

A few observations

2010-03-06T17:02:00.004-05:00

I noticed a few things this morning at the gym...

While on the elliptical machine, I was listening to my iPod and watching the multiple televisions - mostly the news with captions - until something caught my eye. First, a Britney Spears video for one of her new songs - can remember the name. Followed by a video for a Janet Jackson video for one of her new songs - also can't remember the name. What I noticed is that Janet and Britney may have freshened their looks, but they are still doing the SAME moves... Yeah, I said it. Janet may have Control now, and Britney may no longer be Toxic... but I've seen those moves before. It's the same thing wrapped in a new, weird outfit.

I also noticed several of the personal trainers this morning at the gym. Not because they were hot, but because I always thought that a personal trainer should be in somewhat better shape than the person he/she is training. A female trainer leaning against the equipment, looking bored beyond belief, had an enormous ass, and her trainee was working her little ass off. Another trainer looked like he was dreaming of a bag of Doritos (and looked like he ate more than his share of Big Macs) while his toned trainee was working hard on the nautilus machine. For the record, a personal trainer SHOULD be engaged in what he/she is doing, and SHOULD also be the epitome of health. None of this bored, big belly, big ass stuff. If I decide to hire a trainer, I want someone who is going to whip my ass into shape and look like he/she lives at the gym. Nuff said.

Why are animals and children the next step?

2010-03-04T08:23:00.005-05:00

After the news spread about DC's new law allowing gay marriage, the inevitable comments started coming... there were a handful of positive comments. The vast majority were disappointingly filled with hate and ignorance. The comments I always find most annoying are from those who say, "What's next, legalize marriage to your pet or to children?" Really? We have to equate gay marriage with bestiality and pedophilia?

My relationship and the relationships that other gay friends share with their significant others, spouses, partners - whatever you'd like to call it - are just as genuine as any straight relationships.

I'm not going to focus on religion and bigotry - while I believe that religion is a huge crutch for the hate that is spread on a multitude of topics considered to be "immoral." Bottom line, people are disgusted by something they don't understand or even care to try to understand. It scares them. At some level, I believe that many use hate directed outward as a disguise for their own hate for who they really are and hide from. Whatever the case may be, I am tired of the hate and ignorance. Unfortunately, the human race has proven time and time again that it would rather invest more energy in trying to oppress and destroy what it hates than give one ounce of energy to understanding and love for fellow mankind.

I tend to think of myself as a fairly gregarious individual who can take a lot in stride... but in this case, I haven't seen anything to make me believe that the same people who judge will continue to push their biased, moral judgment around.

What would you want with a Wabbit?

2010-03-04T08:22:00.001-05:00

Terry and Marie and I followed up dinner on Monday with the usual search for interesting videos. We happened across this old favorite...

What's Opera, Doc? - The most popular videos are a click away

Good thoughts to Sharon today...

2010-03-04T08:18:00.001-05:00

Sharon is heading to JHU this morning with David. Please send lots of positive energy and good thoughts their way today!

The Best Smart Ass Answers

2010-03-04T08:15:00.002-05:00

These are just too funny, and I had to share... Chad sent these to me this morning. Thanks for passing along.

SMART ASS ANSWER #6

It was mealtime during an airline flight. 'Would you like dinner?' the flight attendant asked John, seated in front. 'What are my choices?' John asked. 'Yes or no,' she replied.

SMART ASS ANSWER #5

A flight attendant was stationed at the departure gate to check tickets. As a man approached, she extended her hand for the ticket and he opened his trench coat and flashed her. Without missing a beat, she said, 'Sir, I need to see your ticket, not your stub.'

SMART ASS ANSWER #4

A lady was picking through the frozen turkeys at the grocery store but she couldn't find one big enough for her family. She asked a stock boy, ' Do these turkeys get any bigger?' The stock boy replied, 'No ma'am, they're dead.'

SMART ASS ANSWER #3

The police officer got out of his car as the kid who was stopped for speeding rolled down his window. 'I've been waiting for you all day,' the officer said. The kid replied, Yeah, well I got here as fast as I could.' When the cop finally stopped laughing, he sent the kid on his way without a ticket.
*This has to be fictitious... if it were true, the cop would have laughed as he handed the kid the ticket.

SMART ASS ANSWER #2

A truck driver was driving along on the freeway and noticed a sign that read: Low Bridge Ahead. Before he knows it, the bridge is right in front of him and his truck gets wedged under it. Cars are backed up for miles.

Finally a police car comes up. The cop gets out of his car and walks to the truck driver, puts his hands on his hips and says, 'Got stuck, huh?' The truck driver says, 'No, I was delivering this bridge and I ran out of gas.'

SMART ASS ANSWER OF THE YEAR 2009...

A college teacher reminds her class of tomorrow's final exam. 'Now class, I won't tolerate any excuses for you not being here tomorrow. I might consider a nuclear attack or a serious personal injury, illness, or a death in your immediate family, but that's it, no other excuses whatsoever!' A smart-ass student in the back of the room raised his hand and asked, 'What would you say if tomorrow I said I was suffering from complete and utter sexual exhaustion?' The entire class is reduced to laughter and snickering. When silence was restored, the teacher smiled knowingly at the student, shook her head and sweetly said, 'Well, I guess you'd have to write the exam with your other hand.'

A BONUS EXTRA

A woman is standing nude looking in the bedroom mirror. She is not happy with what she sees and says to her husband, 'I feel horrible; I look old, fat and ugly. I really need you to pay me a compliment.' The husband replies, 'Your eyesight's damn near perfect. May he rest in peace!

Enjoying the Moment

2010-03-03T08:56:00.006-05:00

This past weekend, we had time to catch up with Sharon. Though my head was still spinning a bit from a migraine I had since Friday night, we could not miss the chance to spend time with Sharon, David, the Cadens, friends who have helped Sharon over the past several years and of course Sharon's donor - Dan. We had a lovely time.

Meeting Dan was a very powerful moment. He unselfishly (twice) gave Sharon life. Had it not been for him, we may not have been together on Sunday under the same circumstances.

Sharing a few hours with the group was honestly heart-warming. It was nice to meet relatives and friends who have been with Sharon every step of the way. And it was nice to share the ride with David when we drove Dan to the airport. As Sharon would say, we all enjoyed the moment!

The photo above includes (from left to right) David, Sharon, Dan and Steph and Marc.

A New Day Has Arrived!

2010-03-03T08:50:00.003-05:00

It's spreading... Someday, it will spread across our entire country and tear down barriers that have existed for far too long!

Trying Something New...

2010-03-01T15:02:00.000-05:00

Since change is good, I wanted to try something new with the format of MattyDale and the City. I've been getting back into regular blog updates, and wanted to give the old blog a face lift. If my 2 readers would let me know your thoughts... I'd appreciate it.

By Your Side

2010-02-28T09:25:00.002-05:00

When you're lost, when you're alone and can't back again... darling, I will find you and bring you home.

Catching Up

2010-02-22T12:11:00.002-05:00

The past few weeks have flown by... and they've been good.

A couple of weekends ago, I started back to the gym. I have been meaning to get back after a break that is too long to mention. I've been very motivated to maintain now that I am back at it. Going four times a week... that is working well.

I also had a really nice visit with David and Sharon. Sharon has been feeling better, which is great. It is good to spend some time with her (this was right before Valentine's Day and her birthday). We relaxed, talking a bit and watching the Olympics. Very low-key, and very nice. David and I hit the Montgomery Mall for a bit and ran some errands for Sharon. It was a while since David and I spent any time together. It was much needed, and we both had a grand time.

I also made the trip to PA for my niece's 4th birthday. It was a lot of fun to spend the day with her and her sister. One of my new favorite moments with Abby that I have to share. As we were leaving, I reached down to give her a hug. She hugged me, looked at me and put her hands on my face, and with the most sincere look in her eyes said, "I love you, Uncle Matt." I melted.

Valentine's Day dinner was nice. Terry and I went to have dinner at Matthew and Chad's house. We brought wine, an appetizer (some yummy scallops in a puffed pastry), dessert and some wine. We had a lovely evening together. I may have drunk a bit too much wine. Monday morning came too quickly.

This past weekend, Terry and I hit the gym on Saturday morning. We had a great workout - we focused on back and biceps. We went back on Sunday for legs. My gluts are sore today!

Saturday afternoon, DCDD held its annual Intimate Winds concert at Hillwood. Following the performance, a small group of us toured the museum. I could definitely live at Hillwood!

Saturday night, we enjoyed drinks with friends Beth, Laura and Bruce. Terry met us in Adam's Morgan for drinks and dinner. We got home later than planned, but it was really nice to get out with them - we haven't spent much time with them lately. It was great to catch up.

Yesterday after the gym, Terry got a much needed haircut, and we enjoyed brunch afterward with members of the "Royal Court." If you haven't been to Ben's Next Door, you need to go for brunch, and try the fried chicken and waffles! We followed that up with a lazy evening at home napping. We also had to make food for Heidi last night... Can't let our little girl go hungry!

Isn't It Strange?

2010-02-11T16:52:00.002-05:00

Last fall for our concert, the symphonic band I am a member of performed this incredible piece by John Mackey. It is called Strange Humors. It is one of my favorite pieces I have ever had the pleasure to perform.

I think I hurt my back...

2010-02-09T21:00:00.003-05:00

Shoveling snow. Took 4 Motrin. I'll call you in the morning.

How dirty ARE they?

2010-02-09T06:59:00.001-05:00

I just don't know what to say...